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How a Psychotherapist Can Help a Highly Sensitive Person Manage Anxiety

7/28/2023

 
As a psychotherapist, I often work with highly sensitive people (HSPs) who struggle with anxiety. HSPs are individuals who process information more deeply and intensely than the average person. This can make them more susceptible to anxiety, as they are more likely to be overwhelmed by sensory stimuli and emotional triggers.

There are a number of ways that a psychotherapist can help an HSP manage anxiety. Here are a few of the most common:
  • Helping the HSP understand their anxiety. The first step to managing anxiety is to understand what it is and why it happens. A psychotherapist can help the HSP understand their triggers, their thought patterns, and their coping mechanisms. This can help the HSP to feel more in control of their anxiety and to develop more effective coping strategies.
  • Teaching the HSP relaxation techniques. There are a number of relaxation techniques that can be helpful for people with anxiety. These techniques can help the HSP to calm their body and mind, and they can also help them to reduce stress. Some relaxation techniques that a psychotherapist may teach an HSP include deep breathing, meditation, and yoga.
  • Helping the HSP set boundaries. HSPs are often empathic and sensitive to the needs of others. This can be a great quality, but it can also lead to feeling overwhelmed and drained. A psychotherapist can help the HSP to set boundaries and learn to say no. This will help the HSP to protect their energy and avoid feeling overwhelmed.
  • Helping the HSP develop a self-care routine. HSPs often need more self-care than the average person. This means making sure they get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and exercise regularly. Self-care can help the HSP manage stress and anxiety, and it can also help them to feel better overall.
  • Providing support and encouragement. Anxiety can be a difficult condition to deal with, and it is important for the HSP to have someone to talk to who understands what they are going through. A psychotherapist can provide support and encouragement, and they can also help the HSP to stay motivated on their journey to recovery.
If you are an HSP who is struggling with anxiety, know that you are not alone. There are many resources available to help you manage your symptoms and thrive. With the right support, you can live a happy and fulfilling life.
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Here are some additional tips for HSPs who are struggling with anxiety:
  • Find a psychotherapist who understands HSPs. Not all psychotherapists are familiar with HSPs, so it is important to find one who understands your needs.
  • Be patient with yourself. It takes time to learn how to manage anxiety, so be patient with yourself and don't give up.
  • Remember that you are not alone. There are many other HSPs who are struggling with anxiety, and you are not alone.
With the right support, you can learn to manage your anxiety and live a happy and fulfilling life.

Book Review: The Highly Sensitive Person In Love

6/30/2023

 
If you are a Highly Sensitive Person in a relationship, this book can help you navigate the challenges.
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love is a book by Elaine N. Aron that provides practical help for highly sensitive people (HSPs) seeking happier, healthier romantic relationships. The book is based on Aron's groundbreaking research on temperament and intimacy, and it offers a wealth of practical advice on making the most of all personality combinations.

The book begins by defining what it means to be an HSP. HSPs are people who are born with a finely tuned nervous system that makes them more sensitive to stimuli in their environment. This can be both a blessing and a curse, as it can lead to HSPs being more easily overwhelmed by noise, crowds, and other sensory input. However, it can also lead to HSPs being more deeply in touch with their emotions, more empathic, and more creative.

The book then goes on to discuss the challenges that HSPs face in romantic relationships. HSPs may be more easily overwhelmed by their partner's emotions, more sensitive to criticism, and more likely to feel misunderstood. They may also be more likely to avoid conflict or withdraw from their partner.

The book then offers practical advice on how HSPs can overcome these challenges and build healthier, happier relationships. This advice includes:
  • Learning to identify and manage their own sensitivities
  • Communicating their needs to their partner
  • Choosing a partner who is understanding and supportive
  • Setting boundaries and taking care of themselves
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love is a valuable resource for HSPs who are seeking to improve their romantic relationships. The book provides practical advice that can help HSPs to understand themselves better, communicate their needs more effectively, and find a partner who is right for them.
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Here are some additional key points from the book:
  • HSPs are more likely to fall in love hard and fast.
  • They are also more likely to be attracted to partners who are also HSPs.
  • HSPs may need more time and space to process their emotions, and they may be more sensitive to criticism.
  • However, HSPs also have many positive qualities to offer in a relationship, such as their deep empathy, their creativity, and their ability to connect with others on a deep level.
The Highly Sensitive Person in Love is a helpful and insightful book for anyone who wants to understand more about HSPs and how they can build healthier, happier relationships.

Are you a highly sensitive person (HSP) who is struggling to cope with the challenges of everyday life?

If so, you are not alone. Millions of people around the world are HSPs, and they often find that their sensitivity can lead to overwhelm, anxiety, and social isolation.

But there is hope.

With the help of a psychotherapist who specializes in working with HSPs, you can learn to understand your sensitivity and use it to your advantage. You can also learn how to manage your emotions, set boundaries, and build healthier relationships.

If you are ready to take the next step, I encourage you to contact me today.

I am a psychotherapist with over 10 years of experience working with HSPs. I understand the challenges that you face, and I am committed to helping you reach your full potential.
Call me today to schedule a free consultation.

I look forward to hearing from you.
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Here are some additional benefits of working with a psychotherapist who specializes in HSPs:
  • They will understand your unique needs and challenges.
  • They will be able to offer you tailored coping strategies and techniques.
  • They will be able to help you build a strong support network.
  • They will be able to help you achieve your personal and professional goals.
If you are an HSP who is struggling, please know that you are not alone. Help is available, and you can learn to thrive in your sensitivity. Contact Scott Olds today to start your journey to healing and wholeness.

Nurturing the Highly Sensitive Soul: Psychotherapy for Highly Sensitive People

6/9/2023

 

Introduction

In a world that often values toughness and resilience, highly sensitive people (HSPs) often find themselves struggling to navigate their unique emotional landscape. Highly sensitive individuals possess a heightened sensitivity to external stimuli, deep empathy, and intense emotional responses. While this trait can bring forth profound insights and creativity, it can also make daily life overwhelming and exhausting. Psychotherapy provides a safe and supportive environment for highly sensitive individuals to explore and embrace their sensitivity, develop coping strategies, and thrive in a world that can sometimes feel too intense.

Understanding Highly Sensitive People

High sensitivity is not a disorder or a weakness; rather, it is a personality trait found in approximately 15-20% of the population. Dr. Elaine Aron, a pioneer in the field of sensitivity research, coined the term "highly sensitive person" to describe individuals who possess a finely tuned nervous system, resulting in heightened sensitivity to sensory input and emotional experiences.
Highly sensitive people often exhibit traits such as deep empathy, a heightened awareness of subtleties, a rich inner world, and an inclination towards reflection and introspection. They may also be more prone to experiencing overwhelm, anxiety, and emotional exhaustion when faced with high-stimulus environments or emotionally challenging situations. Psychotherapy tailored to the needs of highly sensitive individuals can provide them with the tools to embrace their sensitivity as a strength and navigate their emotional landscape more effectively.

Key Approaches in Treating Highly Sensitive Individuals

  1. Validation and Empathy: A crucial aspect of therapy for highly sensitive people involves providing a validating and empathic space. Many HSPs have grown up feeling misunderstood or dismissed, which can contribute to feelings of isolation and self-doubt. Psychotherapists with knowledge of high sensitivity can create a safe and non-judgmental environment where clients feel seen and heard, fostering a sense of validation and acceptance.
  2. Emotion Regulation Skills: Highly sensitive individuals often find it challenging to manage intense emotions effectively. Therapists can work with HSPs to develop emotion regulation strategies tailored to their unique needs. This may include grounding techniques, mindfulness exercises, breathwork, and exploring healthy outlets for emotional expression, such as journaling or creative arts.
  3. Boundaries and Self-Care: Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial for highly sensitive individuals. Therapy can provide a space for exploring boundary-setting techniques and developing self-care practices. Learning to recognize and prioritize their own needs can help HSPs navigate relationships, work environments, and social interactions more effectively, reducing overwhelm and emotional exhaustion.
  4. Cognitive Restructuring: Highly sensitive people may be prone to negative self-talk, perfectionism, and self-criticism. Cognitive restructuring techniques, such as challenging irrational beliefs and cultivating self-compassion, can help HSPs develop a healthier and more balanced self-perception. By reframing their thoughts, highly sensitive individuals can build resilience and enhance their ability to cope with life's challenges.
  5. Sensory Regulation: Highly sensitive individuals may be more attuned to sensory stimuli, such as bright lights, loud noises, or strong scents. Therapists can assist HSPs in developing sensory regulation techniques to manage sensory overload and create environments that support their well-being. This may involve exploring relaxation exercises, developing personalized coping strategies, and making adjustments in their living or working environments.

Conclusion

Psychotherapy holds tremendous potential for highly sensitive individuals seeking support, understanding, and growth. By partnering with a skilled therapist who understands the nuances of high sensitivity, individuals can explore their emotions, develop effective coping mechanisms, and embrace their sensitivity as a gift rather than a burden. Through validation, skill-building, and self-discovery, highly sensitive people can learn to navigate the world with confidence and thrive in their personal and professional lives.
To find out more, schedule an appointment with Scott Olds at ​(303) 817-8369 or email me at [email protected].

10 Things Highly Sensitive People Do To Feel Better And Stay Well

6/6/2022

 
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Highly sensitive people can feel stressed, anxious, or depressed when overwhelmed with sensory overload, with too much happening around them too quickly. While no single activity is a silver bullet to well-being for the highly sensitive, research shows that a combination of these low-intensity positive activities contributes to harmony and well-being.

  1. Positive emotion - Make time each day for yourself to do something that makes you feel good.
  2. Self-awareness - Practice self-awareness to identify the activities that increase your well-being or detract from it. Practicing mindfulness can help.
  3. Self-acceptance - Find peace with yourself by accepting who you are. Perfect is not the goal, progress is.
  4. Positive social relationships balanced by times of solitude - Spend time with those that contribute to your sense of well-being and less with those that undermine it. Make time for yourself to recharge in either event.
  5. Connecting with nature - Nature has a positive effect on us, reducing stress and anxiety. Go for a nature walk with your bestie! 
  6. Contemplative practices - Mindfulness calms the mind and turns down the volume of the external stimuli that make us crazy. Deep breathing also reduces your blood pressure.
  7. Emotional self-regulation - When you become aware that your emotions are being triggered, take a moment to rebalance yourself with a few deep breaths. Find a moment of peace.
  8. Practicing self-compassion - Be kind to yourself. We are imperfect and it is ok! Striving to do our best is sufficient. Intent matters. 
  9. Having a sense of meaning - Have a goal, a purpose for your life. Without a purpose, we drift or let others decide for us. With a purpose, we can move beyond the stress of the moment. 
  10. Hope/optimism - Hope and optimism help us overcome sensory overload, replacing feelings of overwhelm and stress. 

Be gentle with yourself. Embrace sensitivity for the positive benefits and learn to manage the challenges. These 10 practices can help you regain a sense of balance and calm when you feel overstimulated and overwhelmed. 

If you think you may be highly sensitive and need additional help overcoming anger, stress, or depression, call Scott Olds, Psychotherapist at (303) 817-8369 or ​[email protected] for a free consultation. Scott is located in Arvada, Colorado.

Anxiety and Depression? Insomnia May Be A Factor

5/27/2022

 
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If you are experiencing anxiety, panic attacks, or depression, chronic insomnia frequently contributes to the problem. Highly sensitive individuals frequently experience sleep disturbances due to how they process stress. Here are some suggestions to help improve your sleep which will help your anxiety.
Therapy can reduce the overwhelm and stress causing anxiety which will improve your sleep.

Insomnia Puts You At Risk For Medical Conditions ​

Insomnia is shown to put you at risk for a host of medical conditions, including: stroke, asthma, seizures, obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

Insomnia also puts you at risk for mental health disorders, including depression, anxiety, panic attacks, anger, confusion, frustration, and emotional regulation in general.

What causes insomnia?

​The causes of insomnia are many, including:
  • Stress
  • Improper sleeping habits
  • Mental health issues
  • Medications
  • Chronic health conditions, such as cancer, heart disease
  • Sleep apnea

What can I do to manage insomnia?

  • Establish a regular sleep schedule
  • Relax before bed by reading a book or meditating
  • Create a comfortable sleep environment
  • Avoid alcohol or caffeine in the evening
  • Avoid heavy meals or strenuous physical activity before bedtime
  • Avoid taking naps
  • Speak to a therapist to address the stress and anxiety issues disturbing restful sleep

When Should I Contact A Therapist?

If you are experiencing stress, anxiety, panic attacks, or depression, a psychotherapist can help. Your therapist can help you uncover the root cause of your anxiety/depression and teach skills to better manage these issues.

Workshop: Relationships And The Highly Sensitive Person!

11/24/2017

 
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I am excited to announce:
"Relationships And The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)", a three-session workshop for couples.

Purpose: To learn about HSPs in relationships, improve your communication skills, and learn tools for resolving conflict as HSPs.
Counselors: This event will be co-lead by me, Scott F. Olds, and Cathy M. Blake, a fellow counselor and my partner in life.
Workshop Sessions:
 - Session 1 - Introduction to the HSP, the HSP test, relationships and the HSP
 - Session 2 - Partner communication and the HSP
 - Session 3 - Conflict management and the HSP, closure
Location: 10960 West 65th Way, Arvada, CO 80004
Dates: February 10, 17, and 24, 2018 - all Saturdays​

Times: 10 AM to noon
Who can attend: Couples only. Couples are required to attend all three sessions. A maximum of five couples will be accepted, so make your reservation now!
Total cost: $90 per couple for all three sessions

Call Scott at (303) 817-8369 to see if this workshop is appropriate for you.

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    I provide counseling for trauma, anxiety, and PTSD using EMDR. I particularly enjoy working with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs). I work with individuals and couples.

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