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The Relationship Between Sensitivity and Boundary Issues

9/22/2023

 
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The Relationship Between Sensitivity and Boundary Issues
Sensitive people are often more attuned to the emotions of others and their surroundings. This can be a gift, but it can also make it difficult to set and maintain healthy boundaries.
Here are some of the reasons why sensitive people may struggle with boundaries:
  • They may feel guilty or selfish for setting boundaries. Sensitive people often have a strong sense of empathy and compassion. They may worry that setting boundaries will hurt other people's feelings or lead to conflict.
  • They may have trouble identifying their own needs. Sensitive people may be so focused on the needs of others that they neglect their own. This can make it difficult to know when they need to set boundaries.
  • They may have difficulty communicating their needs. Sensitive people may be afraid of being rejected or criticized, so they may avoid communicating their needs directly. This can lead to resentment and frustration on their part.
  • They may have a history of boundary violations. If a sensitive person has experienced boundary violations in the past, they may be more likely to have difficulty setting and maintaining healthy boundaries in the present.

Here are some of the ways that boundary issues can manifest in sensitive people:
  • They may overextend themselves. Sensitive people may agree to do things that they don't have the time or energy for, simply because they don't want to let others down.
  • They may have difficulty saying no. Sensitive people may find it difficult to say no to others, even when they don't want to do something. This can lead to them feeling overwhelmed and resentful.
  • They may be easily manipulated. Sensitive people may be more susceptible to manipulation, especially if they are afraid of hurting other people's feelings.
  • They may have difficulty trusting others. If a sensitive person has been betrayed or hurt in the past, they may have difficulty trusting others to respect their boundaries.

If you are a sensitive person and you struggle with boundaries, there are a few things you can do to improve the situation:
  • Learn to identify your needs. It's important to be aware of your own needs and to be able to communicate them to others.
  • Practice setting boundaries. Start by setting small boundaries, such as saying no to social engagements that you don't want to attend. As you get more comfortable, you can start to set bigger boundaries.
  • Be assertive. It's important to be able to communicate your needs and boundaries assertively. This means being clear and direct, but also being respectful of others.
  • Seek professional help. If you are struggling to set and maintain healthy boundaries on your own, consider seeking professional help from a therapist.

It's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries. You don't owe anyone an explanation for why you need to set a boundary. And you don't have to apologize for setting a boundary. Setting boundaries is a way of taking care of yourself and protecting your well-being.

Here are some additional tips for sensitive people who struggle with boundaries:
  • Listen to your intuition. Your intuition is your inner voice that tells you what's right for you. If you have a bad feeling about something, trust your gut.
  • Take time for yourself. It's important to have time to recharge and de-stress. Make sure to schedule time for yourself each week, and do things that you enjoy.
  • Surround yourself with supportive people. Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries and who make you feel good about yourself.
  • Don't be afraid to say no. It's okay to say no to requests, even if they come from people you care about. Remember, you have the right to choose how you spend your time and energy.

Setting boundaries can be difficult for anyone, but it's especially challenging for sensitive people. However, it's important to remember that you have the right to set boundaries, and that doing so is essential for your well-being.

Remember, seeking help is a courageous step towards a more balanced and fulfilling life. You don't have to face these challenges alone.
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If you're ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery, growth, and healthier relationships, I invite you to schedule a confidential consultation with me. Together, we can work towards a happier, more harmonious life.

Take the first step towards healing today.

Contact Scott Olds at (303) 817-8369 or email at Scott@springsnewhope.com for a free and confidential evaluation by phone or video.

Trauma, Emotional Intelligence, and Learned Patterns

9/15/2023

 
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Trauma is a deeply distressing or disturbing experience that can have a lasting impact on a person's life. It can affect a person's physical and mental health, their relationships, and their ability to cope with stress.

One of the ways that trauma can impact a person is by affecting their emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage one's own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. When a person experiences trauma, they may develop unhealthy coping mechanisms that can damage their emotional intelligence.

For example, a person who has experienced abuse may learn to suppress their emotions in order to cope with the pain. This can lead to difficulty identifying and expressing emotions, which can make it difficult to build healthy relationships and manage stress.

Another way that trauma can impact emotional intelligence is by creating learned patterns of behavior. These patterns are often developed in childhood as a way to cope with the trauma. For example, a child who is neglected may learn to become self-reliant and independent. This pattern of behavior can be helpful in some situations, but it can also make it difficult to form close relationships as an adult.

A psychotherapist can help a person who has experienced trauma to improve their emotional intelligence and break free from learned patterns of behavior. This can be done through a variety of techniques, such as:
  • Emotional awareness: Helping the person to identify and understand their emotions.
  • Emotional regulation: Teaching the person how to manage their emotions in a healthy way.
  • Interpersonal skills: Helping the person to develop healthy relationships.
  • Cognitive restructuring: Helping the person to challenge negative thoughts and beliefs that are associated with the trauma.

By working with a psychotherapist, a person who has experienced trauma can learn to heal and rebuild their emotional intelligence. This can lead to a better understanding of themselves and their emotions, as well as the ability to build healthy and fulfilling relationships.

In addition to the techniques mentioned above, a psychotherapist may also use other approaches, such as:
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR): This therapy helps to reduce the emotional and physical symptoms of trauma by stimulating the brain's natural healing process.
  • Somatic Therapy: This therapy helps people to release the physical and emotional tension that is associated with trauma.

The best approach for a particular individual will depend on the nature of their trauma and their individual needs. A psychotherapist can help to assess the best approach and provide the support and guidance that the person needs to heal.

If you or someone you know has experienced trauma, it is important to seek professional help. A psychotherapist can help you to understand and heal from the trauma, and to improve your emotional intelligence and break free from learned patterns of behavior.

For help overcoming trauma, contact Scott Olds at (303) 817-8369 or email at scott@springsnewhope.com for a free phone or video evaluation.

Guilt and Grief: How to Overcome Them

9/8/2023

 
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Guilt and grief are two of the most common emotions that people experience after a loss. Guilt can be caused by a variety of factors, such as feeling responsible for the loss, wishing that you had done something differently, or feeling like you didn't love the person enough. Grief is the natural emotional response to loss, and it can manifest itself in a variety of ways, such as sadness, anger, anxiety, and loneliness.

While guilt and grief are normal emotions, they can be difficult to cope with. If you are struggling to overcome guilt and grief, there are a few things that you can do:
  1. Acknowledge your feelings. The first step to overcoming guilt and grief is to acknowledge your feelings. It is important to allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling, without judgment.
  2. Talk about your feelings. Talking about your feelings can be helpful in processing them and moving on. Talk to a therapist, a friend, or a family member about what you are going through.
  3. Challenge your negative thoughts. Guilt often stems from negative thoughts about yourself, such as "I should have done more" or "I'm a bad person." Challenge these thoughts by asking yourself if they are realistic and helpful.
  4. Forgive yourself. If you are feeling guilty, it is important to forgive yourself. This does not mean that you have to forget what happened, but it does mean that you need to let go of the guilt, process the unhelpful emotions, and heal.
  5. Take care of yourself. When you are grieving, it is important to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. Eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, and exercise regularly. You may also want to consider joining a support group or talking to a therapist.
Overcoming guilt and grief takes time and effort, but it is possible. By following these tips, you can start to heal and move on with your life.
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Here are some additional tips that a psychotherapist might use to help a client overcome guilt and grief:
  • Grief counseling can help clients to understand the grieving process and to develop healthy coping mechanisms.
  • Support groups can provide a safe space for clients to share their experiences with others who are going through the same thing.
If you are struggling to overcome guilt and grief, it is important to seek professional help. A therapist can provide you with the support and guidance that you need to heal.

Call Scott at (303) 817-8369 or email at scott@springsnewhope.com to see if grief counseling is right for you.


How the Relationship Style We Learned from Our Parents Influences Us as Adults in a Relationship

9/3/2023

 
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As children, we learn about relationships by watching our parents interact with each other. We see how they communicate, how they resolve conflict, and how they show love and affection. These observations become our template for how we expect relationships to work.

If our parents had a healthy, loving relationship, we are more likely to have secure attachment styles as adults. This means that we feel confident in our ability to form close relationships and that we expect to be loved and supported by our partners.

However, if our parents had an unhealthy or conflictual relationship, we are more likely to have insecure attachment styles. This means that we may have difficulty trusting others, may be afraid of abandonment, or may have a hard time expressing our emotions in relationships.

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Of course, our relationship style is not determined solely by our parents. Our own experiences and personality also play a role. However, our parents' relationship style can have a significant impact on how we approach our own relationships as adults.

Generational Influence
The generational influence on relationship styles is a complex topic. There are many factors that can contribute to how we learn about relationships from our parents, including their own attachment styles, their cultural background, and the historical context in which they grew up.

For example, people who grew up in families where there was a lot of conflict may be more likely to have insecure attachment styles. This is because they may have learned that relationships are inherently unstable and that conflict is inevitable.

On the other hand, people who grew up in families where there was a lot of love and support may be more likely to have secure attachment styles. This is because they may have learned that relationships are a source of comfort and security.

It is also important to note that the generational influence on relationship styles can be passed down from generation to generation. This is because children learn about relationships from their parents, who learned about relationships from their parents, and so on.

As a result, it is not uncommon for people to find themselves repeating the same relationship patterns that their parents did. This can be a challenge to break, but it is possible with awareness and effort.
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Here are some specific ways that the relationship style we learned from our parents can influence us in our adult relationships:
  • How we communicate. If our parents communicated in a healthy way, we are more likely to be able to communicate effectively in our own relationships. We will be able to express our needs and feelings in a clear and direct way, and we will be able to listen to our partners' needs and feelings with empathy.
  • How we resolve conflict. If our parents were able to resolve conflict in a healthy way, we are more likely to be able to do the same in our own relationships. We will be able to see conflict as an opportunity to grow and learn, and we will be able to communicate our needs and feelings in a way that is respectful and constructive.
  • How we show love and affection. If our parents showed love and affection in a healthy way, we are more likely to be able to do the same in our own relationships. We will be able to express our love and appreciation for our partners in a way that is both genuine and comfortable.
If you are concerned that the relationship style you learned from your parents is negatively impacting your own relationships, there are things you can do to change. You can talk to a therapist or counselor who can help you to understand your attachment style and develop healthier relationship patterns. You can also learn about healthy communication and conflict resolution skills.

Remember, you are not doomed to repeat the relationship patterns you learned from your parents. With awareness and effort, you can create healthy, fulfilling relationships in your own life.

Here are some additional tips for breaking the cycle of unhealthy relationship patterns:
  • Become aware of your triggers. What are the things that tend to make you feel insecure or anxious in relationships? Once you know your triggers, you can start to develop strategies for coping with them in a healthy way.
  • Challenge your negative beliefs about relationships. If you have negative beliefs about relationships, such as "I'm not good enough" or "I'm always going to be hurt," challenge these beliefs with evidence to the contrary.
  • Practice healthy communication and conflict resolution skills. There are many resources available to help you learn these skills. Talk to a therapist, counselor, or read books or articles on the topic.
  • Be patient with yourself. It takes time and effort to change old patterns. Don't get discouraged if you don't see results immediately. Just keep practicing and you will eventually break the cycle.

If you need help with your relationship, contact Scott Olds at (303) 817-8369 or scott@springsnewhope.com.

Navigating the Transition from Hookup Culture to Meaningful Relationships: A Guide for Clients

8/25/2023

 
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In today's fast-paced world, where hookup culture often takes center stage, transitioning from casual encounters to meaningful, lasting relationships can feel like a daunting task. The journey might require a shift in mindset, a reevaluation of priorities, and a willingness to explore emotional depths. If you're seeking guidance on how to make this transition, you're not alone. Many individuals are seeking more meaningful connections, and with the right approach, you can find the fulfilling relationship you desire. Here's a guide to help you navigate this transition:

1. Self-Reflection and Clarity: Before embarking on the journey to a meaningful relationship, take time to reflect on what you truly want. What are your values, goals, and aspirations? What qualities do you seek in a partner? By gaining clarity about your own desires, you can better recognize a compatible partner when you encounter one.
2. Open Communication: In hookup culture, communication often revolves around the logistics of the encounter. Transitioning to a meaningful relationship requires a shift toward open and honest conversations about emotions, expectations, and long-term goals. Practice expressing your feelings and actively listening to your partner. Effective communication is the foundation of any successful relationship.
3. Slow and Steady: Meaningful relationships are built over time. Instead of rushing into physical intimacy, focus on building emotional intimacy first. Spend quality time together engaging in activities that allow you to connect on a deeper level. This gradual approach helps establish a strong emotional bond.
4. Shared Activities and Interests: Explore activities you both enjoy. Shared hobbies and interests can bring you closer and create opportunities for meaningful interactions. Whether it's hiking, cooking, art, or music, engaging in activities together fosters a sense of togetherness and shared experiences.
5. Vulnerability and Authenticity: To transition from hookup culture to a meaningful relationship, it's crucial to be vulnerable and authentic. Share your thoughts, fears, and vulnerabilities with your partner. This openness encourages reciprocity and helps establish trust.
6. Mindfulness and Presence: In a fast-paced world, practicing mindfulness can enhance your ability to connect deeply with your partner. Put away distractions and be present in the moment. Listen actively, observe body language, and appreciate the nuances of your interactions.
7. Mutual Respect: Respect is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. Transitioning to a meaningful connection involves treating your partner with kindness, consideration, and empathy. Recognize and appreciate their individuality.
8. Emotional Intelligence: Understanding your own emotions and being attuned to your partner's feelings is a hallmark of a meaningful relationship. Emotional intelligence allows you to navigate challenges and conflicts with empathy and understanding.
9. Addressing Fear of Commitment: Transitioning from hookup culture may bring up a fear of commitment. It's essential to address these fears and explore their origins. A qualified psychotherapist can assist in unpacking these emotions and providing strategies to overcome them.
10. Seeking Professional Guidance: Transitioning from hookup culture to a meaningful relationship is a journey that can benefit from professional guidance. A psychotherapist can provide insights, tools, and strategies to navigate this transition, offering a safe space to explore your emotions and thought patterns.

In conclusion, transitioning from hookup culture to a meaningful relationship requires a deliberate and mindful approach. It's about moving beyond surface-level connections and embracing vulnerability, emotional intimacy, and open communication. Remember that this journey is unique to you, and there's no fixed timeline. Be patient with yourself and your partner as you both navigate this transformation. With the right mindset, effort, and support, you can create a meaningful and fulfilling relationship that goes beyond the confines of hookup culture.

For help transitioning from hookup culture to a meaningful relationship, contact Scott Olds at (303) 817-8369 or email at scott@springsnewhope.com

Being Supportive Grows Your Relationship

8/18/2023

 

What Is Support?

Being supportive in a relationship means providing your partner with the following:
  • Acceptance: Accepting your partner for who they are, without judgment. This includes accepting their strengths and weaknesses, their past experiences, and their current thoughts and feelings.
  • Understanding: Trying to understand your partner's perspective, even if you don't agree with it. This means listening to them without interrupting, and asking questions to clarify their meaning.
  • Empathy: Feeling compassion for your partner's experiences. This means being able to put yourself in their shoes and understand how they are feeling.
  • Validation: Letting your partner know that their feelings are valid. This means acknowledging their emotions, even if you don't agree with them.
  • Reassurance: Offering your partner support and encouragement. This means letting them know that you believe in them and that you are there for them.​

Examples Of Support

Here are some examples of how you can be supportive in a relationship:
  • Listen to your partner without judgment. When they are sharing something with you, try to really listen to what they are saying, without interrupting or trying to fix their problems.
  • Ask questions to clarify their meaning. This shows that you are interested in what they have to say and that you are trying to understand their perspective.
  • Validate their feelings. Let them know that it is okay to feel the way they are feeling, even if you don't agree with them.
  • Offer your support and encouragement. Let them know that you believe in them and that you are there for them.
  • Be patient and understanding. It takes time to build a supportive relationship. Be patient with your partner and understanding of their needs.

Therapy Helps

A therapist can help you and your partner be more supportive in your relationship in a number of ways. They can:
  • Provide you with tools and techniques for communication and conflict resolution. This can help you learn how to better express your needs and wants, and how to listen to your partner's needs and wants.
  • Help you understand your partner's perspective. This can help you to be more empathetic and understanding of their experiences.
  • Help you to resolve any underlying issues that may be affecting your relationship. This could include issues such as communication, trust, or intimacy.
  • Provide you with a safe space to talk about your relationship. This can be helpful if you are feeling overwhelmed or frustrated.
If you are struggling to be supportive in your relationship, a therapist can be a valuable resource. They can help you to improve your communication skills, understand your partner's perspective, and resolve any underlying issues.

Shame As It Relates To Caregivers of the Chronically Ill

8/11/2023

 
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As a psychotherapist and in my personal life, I have seen firsthand the impact that shame can have on caregivers for the chronically ill. Shame can be a powerful emotion that can lead to feelings of isolation, inadequacy, and worthlessness. It can also make it difficult to ask for help or support.
There are a number of reasons why caregivers may feel shame. They may feel ashamed of the illness itself, or of the way it has changed their lives. They may feel ashamed of their own limitations, or of the things they have to do to care for their loved one. They may also feel ashamed of the financial or emotional burden that the illness has placed on their family.
Shame can have a significant impact on a caregiver's mental and physical health. It can lead to anxiety, depression, stress, and burnout. It can also make it difficult to cope with the demands of caregiving.
If you are a caregiver for a chronically ill loved one, it is important to remember that you are not alone. There are many other caregivers who are going through the same thing. You are not to blame for the illness, and you are not inadequate. You are doing the best you can in a difficult situation.
If you are struggling with feelings of shame, there are things you can do to cope. First, it is important to talk to someone about how you are feeling. A therapist can help you to understand your shame and develop coping mechanisms. You can also find support groups for caregivers, where you can connect with others who understand what you are going through.
It is also important to remember to take care of yourself. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly. You should also make time for activities that you enjoy. Taking care of yourself will help you to be better able to cope with the demands of caregiving.
If you are struggling with feelings of shame, please know that you are not alone. There is help available. Please reach out for support.
Here are some additional resources for caregivers who are struggling with shame:
  • The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) offers a caregiver support group program called "Family-to-Family." This program provides education, support, and resources to family members and friends of people with mental illness.
  • The National Family Caregivers Association (NFCA) offers a variety of resources for caregivers, including a website, a helpline, and a bimonthly magazine.
  • The Caregiver Action Network (CAN) offers a variety of resources for caregivers, including a website, a helpline, and a toolkit for managing stress.
Please remember that you are not alone. There are many resources available to help you cope with the challenges of caregiving.
If you are struggling as a caregiver and need help, contact Scott at (303) 817-8369 or scott@springsnewhope.com.

The Emotional and Psychological Toll Due to Chronic Illness

8/4/2023

 
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As a psychotherapist, I have seen firsthand the emotional and psychological toll that chronic illness can take on individuals and their families. The physical symptoms of chronic illness can be debilitating, but the emotional and psychological effects can be just as challenging.
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Some of the common emotional and psychological challenges that people with chronic illness face include:
  • Fear and anxiety: People with chronic illness often live with a constant fear of the unknown. They may worry about the future course of their illness, the possibility of complications, or even death. This fear can lead to anxiety, which can manifest in a variety of ways, such as difficulty sleeping, difficulty concentrating, and increased irritability.
  • Depression: Depression is a common mental health disorder that can be triggered by chronic illness. People with depression may experience feelings of sadness, hopelessness, worthlessness, and fatigue. They may also lose interest in activities they used to enjoy and have difficulty sleeping or concentrating.
  • Anger: Anger is another common emotion that people with chronic illness experience. They may be angry at their illness, at their doctors, at their family and friends, or even at themselves. Anger can be a destructive emotion, but it can also be a motivating force.
  • Grief: People with chronic illness often experience grief, both for the life they used to have and for the life they may never have. They may grieve the loss of their health, their independence, their relationships, or even their dreams.
  • Isolation: People with chronic illness can often feel isolated from their friends and family. They may feel like they are no longer able to participate in the activities they used to enjoy, and they may feel like a burden to their loved ones. This isolation can lead to feelings of loneliness, sadness, and despair.
The emotional and psychological toll of chronic illness can be significant, but it is important to remember that you are not alone. There are many resources available to help you cope with the challenges of chronic illness, including therapy, support groups, and online resources.

If you are struggling to cope with the emotional and psychological effects of chronic illness, please reach out for help. There is no shame in seeking help, and it can make a big difference in your quality of life.

Tips for Coping with the Emotional and Psychological Toll of Chronic Illness
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  • Talk to someone you trust: Talking about your feelings can help you to process them and to feel less alone. This could be a friend, family member, therapist, or support group member.
  • Find healthy ways to cope with stress: This could include exercise, relaxation techniques, or spending time in nature.
  • Take care of yourself: Make sure you are getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, and getting regular exercise.
  • Set realistic goals: Don't try to do too much too soon. Set small, achievable goals for yourself and celebrate your successes.
  • Don't be afraid to ask for help: There are many people who are willing to help you, so don't be afraid to reach out.
Coping with the emotional and psychological toll of chronic illness can be challenging, but it is possible. By taking care of yourself and seeking support, you can live a full and meaningful life.

To find out more, schedule an appointment with Scott Olds at ​(303) 817-8369 or email me at scott@springsnewhope.com.

How a Psychotherapist Can Help a Highly Sensitive Person Manage Anxiety

7/28/2023

 
As a psychotherapist, I often work with highly sensitive people (HSPs) who struggle with anxiety. HSPs are individuals who process information more deeply and intensely than the average person. This can make them more susceptible to anxiety, as they are more likely to be overwhelmed by sensory stimuli and emotional triggers.
There are a number of ways that a psychotherapist can help an HSP manage anxiety. Here are a few of the most common:
  • Helping the HSP understand their anxiety. The first step to managing anxiety is to understand what it is and why it happens. A psychotherapist can help the HSP understand their triggers, their thought patterns, and their coping mechanisms. This can help the HSP to feel more in control of their anxiety and to develop more effective coping strategies.
  • Teaching the HSP relaxation techniques. There are a number of relaxation techniques that can be helpful for people with anxiety. These techniques can help the HSP to calm their body and mind, and they can also help them to reduce stress. Some relaxation techniques that a psychotherapist may teach an HSP include deep breathing, meditation, and yoga.
  • Helping the HSP set boundaries. HSPs are often empathic and sensitive to the needs of others. This can be a great quality, but it can also lead to feeling overwhelmed and drained. A psychotherapist can help the HSP to set boundaries and learn to say no. This will help the HSP to protect their energy and avoid feeling overwhelmed.
  • Helping the HSP develop a self-care routine. HSPs often need more self-care than the average person. This means making sure they get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and exercise regularly. Self-care can help the HSP manage stress and anxiety, and it can also help them to feel better overall.
  • Providing support and encouragement. Anxiety can be a difficult condition to deal with, and it is important for the HSP to have someone to talk to who understands what they are going through. A psychotherapist can provide support and encouragement, and they can also help the HSP to stay motivated on their journey to recovery.
If you are an HSP who is struggling with anxiety, know that you are not alone. There are many resources available to help you manage your symptoms and thrive. With the right support, you can live a happy and fulfilling life.
Here are some additional tips for HSPs who are struggling with anxiety:
  • Find a psychotherapist who understands HSPs. Not all psychotherapists are familiar with HSPs, so it is important to find one who understands your needs.
  • Be patient with yourself. It takes time to learn how to manage anxiety, so be patient with yourself and don't give up.
  • Remember that you are not alone. There are many other HSPs who are struggling with anxiety, and you are not alone.
With the right support, you can learn to manage your anxiety and live a happy and fulfilling life.

Being a Highly Sensitive Person in an Abusive Relationship

7/14/2023

 
If you are a highly sensitive person (HSP) in an abusive relationship, you may feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and even hopeless. You may be wondering if you are crazy or if you are just too sensitive.
The truth is, you are not crazy. You are simply a highly sensitive person who has gotten into a relationship with an abuser. Abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, verbal, and financial abuse.
As an HSP, you are naturally empathic and caring. You are drawn to people who are in need, and you want to help them. This makes you a prime target for an abuser. Abusers are often very good at manipulating and controlling others, and they can easily take advantage of your sensitivity.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you may be experiencing some of the following:
  • You feel like you are walking on eggshells. You never know what will set off the abuser, and you are constantly afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing.
  • You feel like you are never good enough. The abuser is constantly criticizing you, and they make you feel like you are never measuring up.
  • You feel isolated and alone. The abuser may isolate you from your friends and family, and they may make you feel like you are the only person who understands them.
  • You feel exhausted and drained. Dealing with an abuser is emotionally and mentally exhausting. You may feel like you are constantly giving and giving, and you never get anything in return.
If you are experiencing any of these things, it is important to know that you are not alone. There are many other HSPs who have been in similar situations. You are not crazy, and you are not to blame.
If you are ready to get out of your abusive relationship, there are a few things you can do:
  • Seek professional help. A therapist can help you understand your relationship with the abuser, and they can teach you how to set boundaries and protect yourself.
  • Build a support network. Talk to your friends and family about what you are going through. They can offer you support and encouragement.
  • Take care of yourself. Make sure you are getting enough sleep, eating healthy foods, and exercising regularly. Taking care of yourself will help you to cope with the stress of the situation.
Breaking up with an abuser is not easy, but it is possible. With the right support, you can heal from the relationship and move on with your life.
If you are a highly sensitive person in an abusive relationship, please know that you are not alone. There is help available. Please reach out to Scott Olds, Psychotherapist, for support.
Here are some additional resources that you may find helpful:
  • The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
  • The National Center for Victims of Crime: 1-800-FYI-CALL
  • The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN): 1-800-656-HOPE
To find out more, schedule an appointment with Scott Olds at ​(303) 817-8369 or email me at scott@springsnewhope.com.

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    Scott F. Olds, Psychotherapist
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​Scott@springsnewhope.com
10960 W. 65th Way
Arvada, Colorado 80004
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