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10 Things Highly Sensitive People Do To Feel Better And Stay Well

6/6/2022

Highly sensitive people can feel stressed, anxious, or depressed when overwhelmed with sensory overload, with too much happening around them too quickly. While no single activity is a silver bullet to well-being for the highly sensitive, research shows that a combination of these low-intensity positive activities contributes to harmony and well-being.

Positive emotion - Make time each day for yourself to do something that makes you feel good.
Self-awareness - Practice self-awareness to identify the activities that increase your well-being or detract from it. Practicing mindfulness can help.
Self-acceptance - Find peace with yourself by accepting who you are. Perfect is not the goal, progress is.
Positive social relationships balanced by times of solitude - Spend time with those that contribute to your sense of well-being and less with those that undermine it. Make time for yourself to recharge in either event.
Connecting with nature - Nature has a positive effect on us, reducing stress and anxiety. Go for a nature walk with your bestie!
Contemplative practices - Mindfulness calms the mind and turns down the volume of the external stimuli that make us crazy. Deep breathing also reduces your blood pressure.
Emotional self-regulation - When you become aware that your emotions are being triggered, take a moment to rebalance yourself with a few deep breaths. Find a moment of peace.
Practicing self-compassion - Be kind to yourself. We are imperfect and it is ok! Striving to do our best is sufficient. Intent matters.
Having a sense of meaning - Have a goal, a purpose for your life. Without a purpose, we drift or let others decide for us. With a purpose, we can move beyond the stress of the moment.
Hope/optimism - Hope and optimism help us overcome sensory overload, replacing feelings of overwhelm and stress.

Be gentle with yourself. Embrace sensitivity for the positive benefits and learn to manage the challenges. These 10 practices can help you regain a sense of balance and calm when you feel overstimulated and overwhelmed.

If you think you may be highly sensitive and need additional help overcoming anger, stress, or depression, call Scott Olds, Psychotherapist at (303) 817-8369 or Scott@springsnewhope.com for a free consultation. Scott is located in Arvada, Colorado.

Anxiety and Depression? Insomnia May Be A Factor

5/27/2022

If you are experiencing anxiety, panic attacks, or depression, chronic insomnia frequently contributes to the problem. Highly sensitive individuals frequently experience sleep disturbances due to how they process stress. Here are some suggestions to help improve your sleep which will help your anxiety.
Therapy can reduce the overwhelm and stress causing anxiety which will improve your sleep.

Insomnia Puts You At Risk For Medical Conditions

Insomnia is shown to put you at risk for a host of medical conditions, including: stroke, asthma, seizures, obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

Insomnia also puts you at risk for mental health disorders, including depression, anxiety, panic attacks, anger, confusion, frustration, and emotional regulation in general.

What causes insomnia?

The causes of insomnia are many, including:

Stress
Improper sleeping habits
Mental health issues
Medications
Chronic health conditions, such as cancer, heart disease
Sleep apnea

What can I do to manage insomnia?

Establish a regular sleep schedule
Relax before bed by reading a book or meditating
Create a comfortable sleep environment
Avoid alcohol or caffeine in the evening
Avoid heavy meals or strenuous physical activity before bedtime
Avoid taking naps
Speak to a therapist to address the stress and anxiety issues disturbing restful sleep

When Should I Contact A Therapist?

If you are experiencing stress, anxiety, panic attacks, or depression, a psychotherapist can help. Your therapist can help you uncover the root cause of your anxiety/depression and teach skills to better manage these issues.

Six Factors For Successful Couples Counseling

4/26/2019

If you want to improve the outcome of couples therapy, here are six things you can do to make your marriage counseling a success.

1. Set Goals For Yourself

Plan to work on yourself. Trying to change your partner is frequently ineffective. What do you want? What were your early expectations in this relationship? If you visualize the ideal relationship, what would that look like?
Today, what are your attitudes and behaviors? What keeps you from being a happier person? What can you improve? When you are stressed, how do you react? Do you try to control, nag, or complain? Do you withdraw? Fear not, your couples counselor will ensure both of you are working, not just you.

2. Be Open

Look for the feelings behind the feelings. There are frequently deeper reasons for surface feelings. Realizing why we feel the way we do can get be helpful. We might feel hopeless, helpless, or embarrassed, but why? Perhaps trust or resentment is an issue. Being more vulnerable to your partner in a safe place will create empathy and compassion.

3. Invest the Time

Couples counseling takes time and energy. Plan to spend quality time working on the relationship at home as well as in a therapy session.

4. Be Openminded

Our assumptions about the motives of our partner may not be true. Ask. Be open to changing your mind and avoid jumping to conclusions.

5. Learn Independence

Relationships can fill some of our needs but not all. Even the best marriage has moments when we feel worried, lonely, or anxious. No partner can be there for you every moment. Learn to become a complete person with activities outside the relationship.

6. Set Divorce Aside For Now

Success requires hope. Focusing on divorce is like staring into the abyss, not a cheerful prospect. Take divorce off the table and work on the relationship. Visualize the positive goals and work toward them. Work on your marriage now. Invest the best part of yourself, your time, honest feelings, and energy for the best couples therapy outcome. Make a brighter future.

Movie Screening: Sensitive - The Untold Story

6/22/2018

Description

A groundbreaking documentary about the temperament trait of high sensitivity found in 20% of the population in both men and women. Based on the findings of bestselling author-psychologist Dr. Elaine Aron ("The Highly Sensitive Person")

Open to everyone.

Presented by Catherine M. Blake, LPC and Scott F. Olds, Psychotherapist
Call Scott at (303) 817-8369 or Cathy at (303) 464-9803 for more information.

Date and Time

Sun, July 22, 2018
1:30 PM – 3:00 PM MDT

Location

Standley Lake Library, Meeting Room
8485 Kipling St
Arvada, CO 80005
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For Reservations

Event Reservation

Workshop: Relationships And The Highly Sensitive Person!

11/24/2017

I am excited to announce:
"Relationships And The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)", a three-session workshop for couples.

Purpose: To learn about HSPs in relationships, improve your communication skills, and learn tools for resolving conflict as HSPs.
Counselors: This event will be co-lead by me, Scott F. Olds, and Cathy M. Blake, a fellow counselor and my partner in life.
Workshop Sessions:
- Session 1 - Introduction to the HSP, the HSP test, relationships and the HSP
- Session 2 - Partner communication and the HSP
- Session 3 - Conflict management and the HSP, closure
Location: 10960 West 65th Way, Arvada, CO 80004
Dates: February 10, 17, and 24, 2018 - all Saturdays
Times: 10 AM to noon
Who can attend: Couples only. Couples are required to attend all three sessions. A maximum of five couples will be accepted, so make your reservation now!
Total cost: $90 per couple for all three sessions

Call Scott at (303) 817-8369 to see if this workshop is appropriate for you.

From Grief to Hope

11/24/2017

My Story
I open my blog with a story of how I arrived at grief and loss counseling.

My journey through grief and recovery began when my wife was diagnosed with ALS, an incurable, debilitating, and fatal disease. Everything changed for us. I went from husband to caregiver and Teri went from family caregiver to patient. We felt a deep sense of loss.

We lost our stability, peace, and privacy. Our house became “Grand Central Station,” with weekly doctor visits and all manner of tests. Even our happy house of 20 years became a challenge, lacking handicap accessibility.

Our life was changing and we felt powerless to stop it. At first she needed a cane, then a walker, and finally a wheelchair, all within the first four months. We reached out and began attending monthly ALS support groups. There, a patient told us that ALS stands for ”always losing something” -- I agreed -- not just for the patient, but for everyone involved in this journey.

The first year was filled with grief for the loss of many things. The hardest thing I had ever done was to tell my children their mother was going to die. I will never forget the look in their eyes. Surprisingly our relationships with extended family and friends changed. Individuals I expected to be there for us became distant, unable to cope with our situation, while others, unexpectedly, stepped in with incredible support. For Teri and me that first year was miserable. As a couple we were frustrated and angry. Publicly we appeared to be coping well. Alone, the tears poured out.

With the help of counseling and support groups, we improved our coping skills and regained a measure of control over our lives. We realized that quality of life was most important to us and resolved to make the most of it. We made some tough medical decisions and shifted our focus to caring for each other and sharing our experience with others.

I learned the hard way and eventually with the help of others. Today, I pass on what I learned about grief to help you move beyond loss to experience joy and happiness.

Defining Grief
Broadly defined, grief is the loss of anything to which we are emotionally attached. When I began counseling, my focus was death and dying because that's what I understood. As I worked with others, I realized grief touched them in many ways. To help them, I trained on techniques for marriage and family, trauma, childhood development, working with couples. The more I learned, it always circled back to some form of grief or loss. Indeed, grief and loss is frequently a factor in counseling. We are always trying to return to the perception of normal.

Some changes are by choice like getting married or moving to a new house. Adjusting to involuntary changes is harder. Grief gets shoved into a small corner when in truth it can shade many of our experiences, from the simple to the complex.

Here are a few examples that can cause grief and unresolved emotional pain.

Job loss can be devastating, particularly if our sense of purpose and self-worth is attached to that job.
Aging can create a sense of loss, as our health and independence deteriorate. Once simple tasks like standing or walking become a challenge, creating feelings of frustration and sadness. Age challenges our relationships too as those close to us drift away or pass on, be they a spouse, a child, or close friends. With a career or family behind us, we may feel disoriented, depressed, or lack a sense of purpose.
A parent, spouse, or close friend may develop dementia or other terminal illness and we grieve for both their loss and ours.
A traumatic brain injury can change your life. After the wounds heal, emotional disturbances may persist caused by our attachment to who we were.
Loss of a spouse or a child can cause us intense emotional distress. You care and it still hurts.
Grief can result from the loss of a house, car, or something special and irreplaceable.

As you can see, grief can occur at any time and in many forms.

Any big change in our lives can have some grief of what we wanted or thought about where your life was headed. Life is about change and when change happens you have loss. In that way grief and loss is part of life.

The Problem of Grief
What is the impact? Grief can be expressed physically, emotionally, socially, and spiritually. The symptoms of grief are varied and might include frequent crying, difficulty sleeping or feeling detached from others. Depression is a typical response that can adversely impact your health, relationships, and career. Feelings of anger and frustration can result from not getting the support you need from friends and relatives. Denial can lead to intense sorrow and anger. Untreated grief numbs your feelings, takes the joy and happiness out of life.

Support from friends may be too much or too little, even if well intended. Some friends become distant while others repeatedly ask the same questions, reminding us of our unresolved grief without resolving it.

You can't hold your feelings inside. If your symptoms of grief persist, treatment can help. You are not alone.

Treating Grief
Counseling is an effective treatment for grief, reducing the symptoms and helps you reintegrate with your friends and experience joy again.

The techniques I use are highly personalized because everyone’s needs are different. I evaluate each client and develop a personal connection to know your unique needs. The treatment plan is customized for you.

I am a man in a field dominated by women. Men are frequently perceived as uncaring and lack compassion. I enjoy the chance to change my client’s minds. Establishing that emotional connection, a sense of caring, improves outcomes.

You can't make progress without being in a safe place. Compassion is an essential part of how I work and I use active listening to engage my clients in a safe space. I don't force anyone down a path that makes them uncomfortable. Everyone deals with grief differently. My goal is to help those who are overwhelmed, and their lives disrupted, to bring hope and joy to living again.

Hope
All these things can be helped if you take the first step and seek professional help. As a grief and loss counselor, people ask how I can be around so much sadness and depression. I tell them what an incredible experience it is to watch someone transcend grief and feel happiness joy and laughter.

I am here to guide you to a better place in your life, out of the darkness into the light, from despair to hope.

Counseling for Grief and the Highly Sensitive Person
The Hope Blog

10 Things Highly Sensitive People Do To Feel Better And Stay Well

Anxiety and Depression? Insomnia May Be A Factor

Insomnia Puts You At Risk For Medical Conditions

What causes insomnia?

What can I do to manage insomnia?

When Should I Contact A Therapist?

Six Factors For Successful Couples Counseling

1. Set Goals For Yourself

2. Be Open

3. Invest the Time

4. Be Openminded

5. Learn Independence

6. Set Divorce Aside For Now

Movie Screening: Sensitive - The Untold Story

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Call Scott at
(303) 817-8369 or email at Scott@springsnewhope.com
for a free phone or video evaluation.

Counseling for Grief and the Highly Sensitive Person​The Hope Blog

10 Things Highly Sensitive People Do To Feel Better And Stay Well

Anxiety and Depression? Insomnia May Be A Factor

Insomnia Puts You At Risk For Medical Conditions ​

What causes insomnia?

What can I do to manage insomnia?

When Should I Contact A Therapist?

Six Factors For Successful Couples Counseling

1. Set Goals For Yourself

2. Be Open

3. Invest the Time

4. Be Openminded

5. Learn Independence

6. Set Divorce Aside For Now

Movie Screening: Sensitive - The Untold Story

Description

Date and Time

Location

For Reservations

Workshop: Relationships And The Highly Sensitive Person!

From Grief to Hope

Author

Archives

Categories

​Call Scott at​(303) 817-8369 or email at Scott@springsnewhope.com ​for a free phone or video evaluation.

Counseling for Grief and the Highly Sensitive Person
The Hope Blog

Insomnia Puts You At Risk For Medical Conditions

Call Scott at
(303) 817-8369 or email at Scott@springsnewhope.com
for a free phone or video evaluation.