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Six Factors For Successful Couples Counseling

4/26/2019

 
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If you want to improve the outcome of couples therapy, here are six things you can do to make your marriage counseling a success.

1. Set Goals For Yourself

Plan to work on yourself. Trying to change your partner is frequently ineffective. What do you want? What were your early expectations in this relationship? If you visualize the ideal relationship, what would that look like?
Today, what are your attitudes and behaviors? What keeps you from being a happier person? What can you improve? When you are stressed, how do you react? Do you try to control, nag, or complain? Do you withdraw? Fear not, your couples counselor will ensure both of you are working, not just you.

2. Be Open

Look for the feelings behind the feelings. There are frequently deeper reasons for surface feelings. Realizing why we feel the way we do can get be helpful. We might feel hopeless, helpless, or embarrassed, but why? Perhaps trust or resentment is an issue. Being more vulnerable to your partner in a safe place will create empathy and compassion.

3. Invest the Time

Couples counseling takes time and energy. Plan to spend quality time working on the relationship at home as well as in a therapy session.

4. Be Openminded

Our assumptions about the motives of our partner may not be true. Ask. Be open to changing your mind and avoid jumping to conclusions.

5. Learn Independence

Relationships can fill some of our needs but not all. Even the best marriage has moments when we feel worried, lonely, or anxious. No partner can be there for you every moment. Learn to become a complete person with activities outside the relationship.

6. Set Divorce Aside For Now

​Success requires hope. Focusing on divorce is like staring into the abyss, not a cheerful prospect. Take divorce off the table and work on the relationship. Visualize the positive goals and work toward them. Work on your marriage now. Invest the best part of yourself, your time, honest feelings, and energy for the best couples therapy outcome. Make a brighter future.

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Workshop: Relationships And The Highly Sensitive Person!

11/24/2017

 
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I am excited to announce:
"Relationships And The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)", a three-session workshop for couples.

Purpose: To learn about HSPs in relationships, improve your communication skills, and learn tools for resolving conflict as HSPs.
Counselors: This event will be co-lead by me, Scott F. Olds, and Cathy M. Blake, a fellow counselor and my partner in life.
Workshop Sessions:
 - Session 1 - Introduction to the HSP, the HSP test, relationships and the HSP
 - Session 2 - Partner communication and the HSP
 - Session 3 - Conflict management and the HSP, closure
Location: 10960 West 65th Way, Arvada, CO 80004
Dates: February 10, 17, and 24, 2018 - all Saturdays​

Times: 10 AM to noon
Who can attend: Couples only. Couples are required to attend all three sessions. A maximum of five couples will be accepted, so make your reservation now!
Total cost: $90 per couple for all three sessions

Call Scott at (303) 817-8369 to see if this workshop is appropriate for you.

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    Scott F. Olds, Psychotherapist
    Scott has 18 years experience facilitating groups and individuals experiencing grief, chronic illness, and loss. Scott also works with the highly sensitive person (HSP) and is an HSP himself. This blog shares his experiences, inspirations, and insights about transforming grief into hope. 

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Free Phone Session: For A Free 30-Minute Phone Or Video Consultation, Call Scott At (303) 817-8369 Or Email At Scott@springsnewhope.com

​Package Discount: Get a 4-session package for 10% off! Call for details.
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I offer sessions in the office, in an open space (weather permitting), by phone, and by video sessions for your safety and convenience. Take a deep breath and give me a call at (303) 817-8369 or email me at scott@springsnewhope.com.
​Crisis Information: The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is available help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention, and crisis resources for you or your loved ones.


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(303) 817-8369
​Scott@springsnewhope.com
10960 W. 65th Way
Arvada, Colorado 80004
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